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Karli McClane
In sharing some of her experiences and observations, Karli's goal is to help others who have had to endure abuse from psychopaths, sociopaths, personality disordered individuals (narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial), and other emotional vampires that thrive on inflicting harm and causing misery.

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Recently, I was considering deleting my blog, but ultimately I decided to switch over from WordPress to a free account instead. I felt like I wasn't reaching anyone; I wasn't getting much traffic, and it felt like I was writing just for myself which is something I can do in a private journal. So when the time came to renew my fees or cancel my blog, I was about to delete the whole thing. Then, I got an email from someone thanking me and encouraging me to keep writing. From time to time I get those, and it is nice to know that that my information was helpful to someone. It's why I started blogging.

Abused By A Narcissist

I started my original blog because, prior to coming to the realization that I was being psychologically abused by a narcissist, I felt like I was losing my mind, that no one understood, even when I tried to explain. It's like I was trapped with no way to express what I had to deal with on a day to day basis. I couldn’t talk to anyone about it.  Even when I tried, I didn't have the words to express how I was being abused. But it was reassuring to find out that I certainly wasn’t the only one that this had happened to, and I won’t be the last. There were others who were suffering or had been through the same type of narcissistic abuse I was enduring.

I cannot express what a huge relief it was just to find that out. Finally, I had some validation. So I started learning the lingo, and it helped me to recount the abuse inflicted by a narcissistic personality. There were people who had been abused in similar ways, and they understood. And so that’s why I started this blog, because it’s so important for others who are just becoming aware of their situation to know that they are not alone. There are others who have suffered the same type of abuse, and we can offer guidance on how to get out of a toxic relationship and lead a healthy, balanced life.

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